it's not enough to be so comfortable that you can stay the way you want together.
people need to be in relationships where their significant other makes them want to change. for the better. if you have chemistry with someone, if you have that special kind of love between you, they should foster your growth, and you theirs. because that's the basis of respect, where they are at a level where you are not. maybe it's finances. cleanliness. timeliness. maybe it's a certain stage in life. and maybe they are lacking something in turn that you can provide or teach them.
you should be with someone that makes you want to be a better person than you were yesterday.
everything else falls under this category. love them enough. care for them. or just be there, and have your presence irrationally influence them with no action on your part. these are your sole duties to each other; you seem to need little else.
also, i really want a sam smith's right now. or a hoegaarden. ughhh beeeeer i wants it.